Life can be chaotic for several reasons, such as soured relationships, disappointments while chasing your dreams and goals, some childhood traumatic events, ongoing addictions, financial turmoil, health concerns, loss of dear ones, or a loved one going through some sickness.
There could be hundreds and thousands of reasons why life can seem chaotic, and it’s natural for anyone dealing with something like that to feel like there is no way out of it.
Whatever the reason is, there are some things that you can do to deal with life’s chaos:
1. Some people in your life try to belittle you or take your love for granted, or they don’t give you the respect you deserve despite your selfless love and care for them.
If this is why your life seems chaotic, you must take a step back and get back to yourself. Start investing your love in yourself. Sometimes it’s hard to let go of someone if you’ve given them all you’ve got, but to get yourself back, you must let go of them. Your life is not going to be well if YOU are not well. So, you must get WELL and try to stay WELL.
2. You expected very highly of yourself but failed to achieve your cherished goal or dream.
If this is why your life seems chaotic, then, in this case, it’s okay to fail. When you are pursuing your desired goal or dream in life, you are bound to meet with failures because you are trying various ways to fulfill your dreams, to reach your goals in life, and you don’t know which one is going to get you there.
So, until you find the right path leading up to your goal or dream, you are going to keep failing, but you must NEVER GIVE UP. You keep trying and keep learning from those failures. Trust me, sooner or later, you are going to get what you’ve set your heart on, but only if you DON’T GIVE UP.
Remember this, keep failing but keep learning from the failures and never give up. And, also remember to take care of yourself while you chase after your dreams, I’m talking about taking care of your health. Please read my article Health is Wealth – It Has To Be Prioritized, where I talk extensively about the IMPORTANCE OF HEALTH in life.
3. You had some traumatic past, such as some physical abuse or molestation or bullying, or something of a more serious nature. It could be anything, only you know that pain.
If it is because of some grim past that you are still hanging on to, and your life has become chaotic even after so much time has passed, you must LET GO of it RIGHT AWAY.
The past is gone. No matter how much you dwell on it and be sad thinking about it, it’s not going to make any difference or change it. You are only going to hurt yourself more if you keep thinking about the past trauma. You must forget all that and all those responsible for that trauma in your life, all of that doesn’t matter anymore.
You still have a lot of life to live, which rightfully belongs to you, so DON’T WASTE it on things or people who don’t matter to you.
Seek professional counseling if you need to. When you decide to let go of such a past, your recovery and healing will start from that moment on. So, start healing now. You DESERVE a better LIFE.
4. You are consumed by some addiction, and it has made your life uncontrollably chaotic.
If your addiction has made your life chaotic, then my friend, there is HELP AVAILABLE if you ASK for it. Just do a google search “(Type of) addiction helpline (Country Name)”, search for their helpline numbers, and call them up to see what help they are offering (Please don’t share your bank details or other personal details with anyone unless some ID proof if they need it).
I know it’s a tough battle to fight, but once the fighter decides to stand up against his opponent (in your case, your addiction is your opponent), that’s when he begins his WAR toward VICTORY, but you must not give up or go back.
I had a friend who lost his parents at an early age as I did too, and he had an elder brother who had given into alcohol so badly that he couldn’t stay sober even for an hour. His brother always wanted to drink more and more, and my friend would be worried sick about him.
Whenever my friend went to talk to his brother, he would argue with him and verbally abuse him.
I couldn’t keep in touch with my friend for several years, but I reached out to him one day. And when I asked him about his brother and how he was, he told me that his brother was living in some Ashram and that he had not tasted alcohol for the past two+ years, and he was now trying to get his way back into life through sobriety.
When I asked my friend how the heck that happened, he told me that one day his brother cried to him while he was still drunk and asked him for his help. My friend took him to one of the local branches of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), where he started recovering and has been sober for the past two+ years now.
So, it all starts with asking for help. Please seek help to overcome your addiction. And once you have YOUR CONTROL back on YOUR LIFE, you’ll begin to LIVE BETTER, life won’t seem chaotic anymore.
5. You are in some financial difficulty or turmoil.
If you are facing some financial crunch and everything has become chaotic, honestly, you CAN BOUNCE BACK from this if you don’t get too carried away. I mean there are several ways to make money nowadays.
If you learn new skills and show determination, you can get all that you’ve lost back or all that you need. Pick up a job or find ways to earn money online. It will take some time, but with consistency and hunger for learning, everything will soon turn around.
Just keep your expenses down, and avoid unnecessary ones. Keep learning new methods of making money (Obviously, only the legit ones) by implementing your talents and new learnings.
Where there’s a will, there’s always a way, I firmly believe.
6. You have some health concerns.
Life can seem very chaotic when you struggle with your health. You must seek professional help right away. If it is some mental health concern, seek psychiatric help, there’s nothing wrong with it. With good health, you can fix any chaotic situation in your life.
Only if you have some terminal condition, it’s going to be a harder challenge to deal with, but I’ve also seen miracles (Unfortunately, I didn’t see one in my case when my Ma was going through something like that, and it did make me deeply sorrowful, but somehow I found a purpose for my life. And now, I’m able to deal with that sorrow).
So, even when nothing is in your hands, continue to hold on to that very last ounce of hope, you never know if something miraculous may come out of that little hope. Hang in there.
7. Someone dear to you is going through some hopeless health-related trauma.
Life can be intensely chaotic when someone you love more than yourself is suffering, and you have to watch them like that. Once again, I’ll say you must hope for things to get better even when there’s no hope. You must pray in whatever faith you follow and remain patient while you pray.
I know it’s unbearably tough to see someone you love more than yourself going through something as challenging as that, but you must do whatever you can to save them and to better their health. At the same time, you must MAINTAIN YOUR positivity, faith, and health.
Through your love and faith, they will find all the strength they need to fight their battle. REMEMBER again, NEVER GIVE UP. I’m saying all this because I’ve been there myself, and I’m still here trying to give hope, despite losing the one very dear to me.
8. You’ve lost your dear one.
Oh boy! I don’t even know how to explain this because I’ve still not been able to overcome the pain of losing my Ma (My Mother, she is my darling sweetheart, who went through a hell of pain and is with God now, yet she is still with me in my memories, heart, and soul). I miss her a lot, there’s not a single hour that goes by without me thinking about her, but I’ve made my peace with it.
I cherish the time I spent with my Ma. She always encouraged me to live life to the fullest, so that’s what I’m trying to do even after more than seven years of not hearing her sweet voice or feeling her affectionate touch on my face.
Dealing with the loss of loved ones is very chaotic (it makes you sad, and you don’t know how to get over it or get on with life without them), but the only way to honor their love for you is by carrying on living your life. Honor them with everything you do in life. Honor their love and their memories. This is the only way to deal with the chaos induced by such grief.
For whatever life I have, I don’t hold anything against the Creator or God or whatever you’d like to call Him. My life is my responsibility.
I’m grateful for this EXPERIENCE called LIFE, whether it is a good or bad experience. I learn from the bad and let go of it. I try to cherish only the good — something that makes me feel okay and all right.
I continue to have faith. I continue to give hope, and I continue to live life.
Let go of the bad, cherish the good, keep the faith, give and keep hope and continue to LIVE.
And remember, NEVER GIVE UP!